Helping Women Through Challenging Life Transitions
One thing is permanent in life, and that is change. Over the course of a lifetime, you will likely experience significant changes. Some will almost seem to happen naturally, as when a baby goes from sitting, to standing, to walking. Others might be stressful, causing anxiety, depression or fear. These types of changes—or transitions—may warrant therapy for women.
Sometimes, transitions are planned, such as marriage, a new job or retirement. In other cases, transitions are sudden and unpredictable—a job loss or the death of a loved one. Whether they are welcome or unwelcome, these transitions mark the closing of one chapter of life and the opening of another. Transitions present challenges, but through therapy, they may also offer the possibility of opportunity.
As a therapist for women in transition, I can help you through whatever life transition you’re facing, including:
- The Empty Nest
- A Blended Family
- Sudden Widowhood
- Divorce After 50 or at Any Age
- Job Loss
- Job Promotion
Expectations vs. Reality
Someone once said that expectations are a recipe for disappointment. We all naturally have expectations. However, when what actually happens doesn’t match the expected picture in our heads, we may feel disappointed.
Expectations often accompany a life transition. Take retirement, for example. A woman about to retire may envision a time period of freedom and happiness. But as the months go by, she may realize that retirement is not what she thought it would be.
Similarly, a woman moving up the career ladder may spend a few weeks or months in a new job and then question whether she is up to the task. She may doubt her ability and feel like she is an imposter. This imposter syndrome comes from thinking you’re a fake; you don’t belong where you are and soon your inadequacies will be discovered.
But where do these expectations, thoughts and feelings originate?
Get the Whole Picture with Therapy for Women
Together, you and I will explore the root cause of your thoughts and feelings. For instance, your anxiety or depression during a particular life transition may be tied to expectations placed upon you as a child by your family. That’s a connection you’d unlikely be able to recognize on your own.
Think of it this way. You have a cake recipe that you’ve followed exactly several times. Yet each time the cake comes out of the oven lopsided. You think, “I must be doing something wrong.”
But now there is Google! And when you Google lopsided cake, advice from a professional baker suggests that maybe the thermostat in your oven needs recalibration. Another possibility is the quality of the flour you’re using, or perhaps your baking soda has expired. Now that you have more information, you realize the root cause of a lopsided cake is not necessarily you.
Just as a professional baker offered new information in this scenario, I will hear what you’re thinking and present you with insights that you may not have known to consider. Decisions about actions you’ll take in the face of a transition are always yours. But now with the whole picture in mind, your thoughts and feelings will not hold you back.